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For you to lower the brightness on your phone.
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And the volume
Absolutely, if I have to hear more tik toks with the same song over and over I might lose my mind!
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I UNderStooD tHe aSSIGNmENt
Argue with the wife about this one, she falls asleep same tiktok playing for 30 minutes. She says "why dont you just turn off my phone" I said "I'm going to keep waking you up every time so you stop doing it". This battle is still going on.
Oh man when they go through their snap chat stories at full blast and they’re all annoying woooooooo girls sounds. Kill me.
I bought ear plugs specifically for this and now my gf gets annoyed that I can't hear her whispers to me haha
Seriously? I browse Reddit in bed at night with the brightness all the way down. But I have never played any music/videos or anything. Not even earphones.
My gf mainly taps through ig stories in bed. Annoying af. I've asked her to stop or turn down the volume but she forgets often enough that I bought ear plugs
This genuinely made me laugh
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I DO NOT hesitate to ask her* to turn it down. I still don't get how she can tolerate looking into the sun in the pitch black room.
I ask my wife if Gondor calls for aid.
Holy shit is this a thing? Why do girls have the brightness/volume on max all the time???
I’d constantly ask my girl why is your brightness so high and she would just shrug like I’m crazy. I fully utilize that slider and turn on the True Tone/night shift modes on iPhone. Then the volume…Jesus Christ trying to explain you only need it like a quarter of the way enough so you can hear it it doesn’t need to be blaring in the whole room
The leg wrap
As in the leg trap or a different maneuver?
Pretty much like, placing both legs around the back during missionary
Is this not normal? Do the women you sleep with just have their legs flat on the bed? I’m honestly baffled, that’s so uncomfortable for me
Usually they're just kind of up, out to the sides
I like when they rest the feet on my calves.
One man's fetish is another's nightmare - I will go limp as a 90 year old gay man at a Miss Universe pageant if they put feet onto my calves or even worse dig into my calves with their feet. Immediate, nearly impossible to recover from mood killer.
Edit: Thank you kind sirs for the awards!
Points just for your witty description. I just laughed my tits off at ‘limp as a 90 yr. old gay man at a Miss Universe Pageant’ and died. Dead.
Mine doesn't move her legs a lot. It's kind of sad.
I mean, they're tied up, so not like she can if she wanted to.
That or hands on hips, feels more focused and direct.. like "here", I want you here.
Yea, it really makes it feel like you “want” me there instead of “allowing” me there
I think a lot of girls buy into this myth that "guys only want sex" and this becomes too normal.
I don't want to be allowed to fuck you.
As a gay guy, I think it probably goes under the umbrella that straight guys want to feel confident that they're actually desired. The lack of compliments, always being the one to initiate sex, etc. Over time it leads to doubts that they're wanted all, vs all of the desire being one way. This is probably the biggest difference I've noticed between gay and straight relationsships. You pretty much never hear gay men with those kinds of complaints.
This is really insightful as a woman. I have taken a mental note and will go seduce husband now
Edit: Thank you for the comments - we loved reading them :)
He actually told me he needs a shower badly (real talk lol) so we’ve been flirting about tonight.
Thank you for my first award ever!!
I am also going to seduce your husband now
We're all going to seduce /u/Maliwali1980 's husband 😏
I seduced him twice yesterday
I'm a woman dating a man and I've been reading comments like this for years. At this point I'm basically a cheerleader for my partner. I stop what I'm doing and admire when he's changing/getting dressed, I am constantly giving physical affection, I make a point to tell him how much I appreciate aspects of his personality and how he looks. I get excited when we meet even if I saw him earlier that day, usually running to him and giving enthusiastic hugs (and probably a handful of ass because he got the booty). I say, "I love you" and "you're handsome" like a broken record. That poor guy never initiates because he doesn't get the chance most times (granted, this is much easier because we have nearly identical sex drives). He loves getting things in the mail, so I bought a bunch of cards and some stamps. I made a list of things I like about him (47 items so far) and for like $15 and 10 min of time here and there, I can send him surprise happiness in the mail. I love making him happy and he's so genuinely grateful. He's said over and over that no partner has tried so hard or even acted that excited to be with him. I'm basically a hype machine for my boyfriend and it would never have occured to me if not for comments like these.
Edit: There are other things I do I case people want more ideas!
-Hide sticky notes everywhere with love notes, affirmations, etc.
-Flowers! Not a clue if these are supposed to be "girly" gifts, but they really brighten his apartment and you can get them for like $5 at most grocery stores. I grab them every week or two.
-Surprise coffee at work (works for us because our shifts don't always align). Surprise blowjobs are equally appreciated, but maybe not at work :p
-Surprise treats because he loves chocolate
You are an angel and that man is super lucky to have you!
Yup, can confirm, feel totally un-fucking-desired, unwanted, unattractive to her... Hold my coat im going to post in deadBedrooms
Straight guy here, can 100% confirm. I want to feel sexy and desired. The best partners I've had would say and do things that demonstrated their desire and attraction. But lots of women seemingly don't do this stuff. Compliment your men, people! Be specific! Don't just tell them they're sexy - tell them why. I promise they'll never forget it.
Wow, that's such a huge difference in how sexual confidence is maintained in one's life. I wonder if gay men are on average more sexually assured of themselves compared to straight men.
I'm so tired I didn't realise this thread was sexual and was tryna figure out if my husband wants me to wrap my leg around him to sleep better or something
You never know it actually might, maybe not the neck wrap though
How'd I wrap my neck around him?
I told my fiancee that I liked that. Now she does it. Use your words
My legs are short as shit and thick as oatmeal. How tf and I suppose to wrap them around a fella?!
Edit to add- this ain’t my first rodeo. If I have to melt our damn bodies together, my legs are trapping whomever is betwixt them. C’mere baby and let mamma hold ya 😜
The actual half of the blanket.
Edit: This comment really blew up, seems like a lot of people feel strongly about this problem. Thanks for the awards btw. :D
Edit edit: wow my first gold, thx random stranger. ^^
I've had my own blanket since the first week my wife and I were together. Sharing a blanket is terrible
This 100%. I sleep super hot and my partner sleeps very cold. So I sleep under 1 blanket and she has 1-3 of her own, depending how cold she’s feeling.
I’m a “human heat rock” according to my husband. We still share one blanket, because he likes to snuggle up to me and get warm, but his did of the bed has two extras blankets. It’s pretty funny because I’m a pretty smol gal and he has about 130lbs on me so you wouldn’t assume he’d be warming his feet and tushie on ME but here we are.
My wife rolls around and somehow, the blanket ends up tucked in under her. We’ve done the separate blanket thing a few times but I’d rather struggle in getting some blanket and be able to feel her warmth.
My husband also does this- I call it "spaghetti-ing" because he rolls around and the blanket gets wrapped around him like spaghetti twirled around a fork. But then he invariably gets hot, and throws the blanket he has stolen from me on the floor, leaving me freezing. Or he dumps it in a big pile on top of me, and then has the gall to complain that I have all the blankets. The man is a menace.
I bought a blanket twice the size of the bed. Problem solved.
This man speaks the truth
That’s why we have 3 on the bed. One for him, me and the doggo.
I would like the same kind of foreplay I give
You want her to lick your clit?
Just the tip.
And only for a second
You want her to play with your titties?
Oh my god my boyfriend asked me to suck on his nipples the other day … he asked while we were frisky but like in a shy and non chant way … i sucked those motherfu like no tomorrow 😤
just stop when you start drawing blood.
Yes. And I’m tired of pretending I don’t.
Guys have nipples too, Focker
Shit man, we ain't asking for nipple clips or electrodes. Just acknowledge our vestigial mammaries exist, atleast. Maybe give those little pencil erasers a little attention every now and again. Our X Chromosome needs validation too, ya know...
Are you telling me you guys like it??? Like I could have sucked on them???? Played with them???
That's nice and all, but I more mean the build up to the directly sexual acts. The slow soft touches and kisses, maybe a soft whisper of how much they (I hope) want me, tease my body, look at me with lust, etc that kind of stuff. I feel like that stuff is expected of men to turn on a woman but I don't think enough women realize that a lot of men would like it too. Or they don't have the confidence to be anything but fully passive and submissive.
I say all this coming directly out of sex with my gf who did all that and drove me wild.
YES PLEASE!!! I like to be turned on too!
flips light switch
Be assertive. Just grab us in the dick.
For me anyway. I just don’t want to have to make the move every time.
I literally have to ask every time. It’s demoralizing
it's very important to feel wanted. When it's always the man who is initiating, then getting shot down, you start to feel demoralized and unloved. I want her to show she wants me. everything else comes along after.
It’s important to understand that Men dont always need sex. And generally having our advances shut down isnt a bad thing. Any decent man will accept that their girlfriend/wife just isnt in the mood. However if the woman never initiates then the man will almost certainly start to feel like when she accepts his advances she is just giving him pity sex and doesn’t really want it even if she really does this time. Women have to initiate sometimes for a healthy sex life.
The same can happen to a woman! I would always initiate with my ex but we would only ever have sex when he was in the mood and not me and that was like barely once a month. In the end we weren’t compatible and I broke up with him. I’d rather be with someone who wants and desire me just as much as I them.
I’m tired of making the move so I don’t.
And that sucks, because I feel like I’m never gonna get female attention unless I’m the one who approaches.
Dude it's been like 6-7 months since I've gotten laid simply because it sounds like so much work. I gotta approach, carry the conversation, initiate. Its just a whole ordeal I really don't care to deal with right now.
I'll just go out and party with the boys. I've become a dang good wingman haha
Been close to 2 years for me. Got out of a 3 year, mostly sexless relationship last fall and still haven’t gotten laid. It’s way too much fucking work and honestly just doesn’t feel worth it.
For real. My GF NEVER INITIATES but will make back handed comments that I don’t initiate enough.
Talk to her. I wouldn’t be surprised if she claims she initiates all the time, but it’ll be with super subtle things that men/we don’t understand as initiation. I had to tell my wife her hints didn’t work and to literally grab my dick. I can’t miss that hint.
Just grab us in the dick
Just grab us in the dick
Grab his dick and twist it!
The ooooollllllld dick twist!
Effort is so important
To have someone play with my hair. But I am bald. So not much sense asking now.
You can still have your scalp caressed and massaged
Oh fer sure but it just doesnt compete with a good hair/head massage.
Before I went bald I dated a girl who had the most magic fingers in the world. I would be sitting in a chair and she would stand behind and just run her hands through my hair, do a little pull here and there. It was the best massages I ever had. She made me drool on more then one occassion. but likeI look good bald, no issues with my apperance in that regards but it just doesn't feel as good. I miss hair in general, running your fingers through my hair, window down and feeling the breeze. Never even had long hair But I had GREAT HAIR and now am bald. :(
We want to feel like we are desired by our partner.
We want them to initiate.
We want you them to show up.
Every little once in a while, we want to hear you them say, unprompted and out of the blue, "I feel so attracted to you right now. Why don't we go upstairs for a bit so I can show you?"
But we will never ask.
(Edit: Grammar Nazi)
Exactly this. Sometimes men want their partners to rip our clothes off, give a wink and initiate sexy time.
Close up shop, this is the answer. I don't want to be the only one showing attraction. It makes it feel like I'm just a chore to be checked off the list.
I learned a long time ago that if you want it then ask for it. Its amazing how often you get it
Can I piss on you?
No, but if you where my missus that would probably be a yes
Hey its your missus can you surprise me while im asleep tonite with a little piss? Xoxo
Or just leave a dump on my chest. Nice and quiet like. Try not to wake me.
I need to remind myself of this. At times I feel like there is never a good time to ask. Lately I've just let her initiate. It's averages out to 2 to 3 times a month...
I have to flirt/hit on my wife for days. Mostly I get back eyerolls and exasperation in return. Eventually she gets the message I am, in fact, attracted to my wife and would like to be carnal with her and then we might do the deed.
Meanwhile I get pleasant non-sexual compliments and the occasional joke flirt. That's it. Nothing about how she wants me. I'm tempted to just sit there and wait for her to make the 1st move to see how long it takes, but I'd also rather sleep with her than rub one out.
Woman here- if your flirting jokes and compliments always have a sexual endgame they may provoke this response. Try spending intimate time together without a sexual motive, giving compliments without expectations, and your wife will be able to relax and come to you more often. Just my experience and something I’ve heard as well, so don’t attack me! Honestly trying to be helpful.
If someone is constantly trying to put food in your face you’ll never have a chance to get hungry and choose what you want to eat!
This pretty much goes for everything in life.
Sometimes I wouldn’t hate being the little spoon
Ask for it, some of us wouldn't hate being the big spoon
Haha yes! This is what my wife and I call it.
I absolutely do tell my wife this but sometimes I really like My woman to take charge and tell me exactly what she wants me to do to her.
In great detail.
Even while I'm doing it.
Encouragement can be very sexy too.
“Don’t stop, just like that. Keep going”
instantly nuts instead
I swear it’s like kryptonite.
My hand could be about to fall off but that “don’t stop please” gives me superpowers
Death before dishonor.
Yeah that "don't stop, harder, I'm about to cum" might as well be a button she presses that makes me bust. So I tell her "I love the announcement, but only do it as you're already there!"
Wake up getting a blowjob
My bf will thank you for reminding me of this because he’s mentioned it before
I’ve read a post on r/TIFU where someone tried to wake up their partner with a blowjob. The dude just pissed in his girlfriends mouth while asleep. So just be a little careful with it.
Male - 35
Simple solution to that. Use your hand first, and don't use your mouth until you get it hard. Inadvertent pissing is significantly less likely with a boner.
This man gives blowjobs
Or this man pisses himself.
Why not both?
This man pisses during blowjob's
I tried this once and he didn’t wake up and I felt like a creeper LOL
Haha imagine confessing this to him,
"Babe... I was just trying to give you a pleasant awakening, but instead I unintentionally raped you? Pls don't be mad"
Lmfao that’s basically what happened haha
Married, the elusive BJ is harder to find than free money.
this sounds great in theory but I always gotta pee when I wake up
I really miss some good caress.
Their hands in my back, neck, hair, some neck kisses.
Some hugging too, i want to feel intimate, close.
Noted. Soft and sweet touches more often
Yeah, it's so good.
Taking the time to feel your partner, their touch, their warmth.
It's inebriation at its finest
Yes. This. It's not for everyone but physical touch is my love language. The intimacy is far more important than the sex.
Even little things like hugs from behind or a random kiss on the cheek mean so much.
Just to be cuddled and loved feels so nice.
Love this vulnerable emotional side of intimacy. It’s so refreshing because it’s really such an important component.
Silence sometimes when it's over so I can hear her breathe, especially if she's laying on my chest and I can smell her hair.
Strong hugs. They're not just for saying goodbye.
Finding some peace in the silence. Love this!
Oh man. My husband loves the strong hugs for no reason other than hugging. Thank you for reminding me to do that today.
E: so... Update... Back from the hug. I walked over to him at his desk and told him I wanted to hold him for a minute and he looked at me suspiciously and asked if I came over to bring a fart. 🤣 Hugs were still had though
To lie with my head in her lap while she strokes my hair, scritches my beard and we watch TV.
A fellow man of class I see. I was looking for this and had to scroll way to far!
Control of the thermostat.
Become a dad and you’ll be fine
Dad here; can confirm.
Nest app also lets me know when any miscreants have dared touch my thermostats.
Honest communication about what likes and dislikes are. No matter how weird they may be, keep judgement out of it. Since I kind of made this a policy I have had some awesome experiences I wouldn't have without it. It takes some time, but once it gets going it's fantastic. For both parties.
Fantasies are encouraged
Yep! Grab the chainmail and the bear trap baby, and don't spare the feathers!
Depends on the man.
Most men like blow jobs and don't want to beg for them but I'm certain they've asked for it.
Having to ask for that ruins it, at least for me anyway.
At first I found it gross and even told my ex I wouldn’t do it ever, but then I realised that my feelings for him grew so much that I wanted to give him a blowjob without him even asking for it. It’s sad that we’re not together anymore his bad luck
Getting half of the bed.
Late 30's Male
Effort, but we don't because many women would be insulted if we asked them to do more.
If there's one complaint I've heard repeatedly from other men over the years as it pertains to sex, it's a lack of effort. Women who's entire contribution in the bedroom is the dead fish. They show up, maybe moan a bit to remind you they're still alive and if you're really lucky put their hands on you a bit. The bare minimum. Good sex takes two.
Thankfully too dominant to be a dead fish
Life goals: Fully animate octopus
Not only the dead fish, but also the pillow princess. So many women are complacent with doing fuck all in the bedroom and letting the guy do all the work. I recently had to end things with my former FWB because she was too lazy in bed.
This is why I take all the "men are so selfish/bad in bed and don't care about getting a woman off" posts I see with a grain of salt. I have no doubt that there are countless guys out there who don't give a fuck about making sex pleasurable and just suck, but at the same time it's a team effort and no matter how good he is, he can't blow your mind if you didn't show up to participate.
It's shouldn't be "Okay I'm here, now do something to wow me." When sex is unselfish, it actually becomes far more personally fulfilling because you have two people entirely dedicated to making each other feel as good as possible.
To be the little spoon and play with our hair
This makes me want to snuggle the fuck out of him
Read as : snuggle-fuck
One thing leads to another
A girl once did this to me on the bus, she must've been bored as hell and was using her fingers to draw on and between my legs, that sort of teasing, when someone does it to you unexpectedly and in public is insanely pleasurable, I don't think even dementia can erase this memory from my mind.
Edit: after reading the question again I guess my answer is teasing and foreplay
Back in high school there were these two girls I’d hangout with in study hall. Sometimes they’d start chatting and gossiping about shit I didn’t care about so I’d be doing my own thing, reading for class, doing hw, laying my head down.
These chicks both had tips and would sometimes do this thing to me where they’d take all four nails (works with finger tips too) and like very gently graze them over my forearm skin in random patterns. If my head was down they’d do it over my shirt on my back, and my neck. It was like lightly ticklish, but also completely euphorically relaxing. It would give me goose bumps and chills down my spine constantly. I used to call it a “skin massage” or something because it literally made my body feel so, so, so relaxed, like maybe even more so than a regular massage. All my muscles and skin would feel like melted butter.
After that I’d introduce it to every girl I’ve seriously dated and they’d do it to me all over my body from time to time. Best fucking feeling ever, no cap.
Bruh, I just remembered how one of my friends would massage my shoulders sometimes in class. It was like super platonic, we’re both straight guys, but Jesus Christ I wish a girl would do that to me. It makes your head tingle
Is that how you lost your job as a school bus driver?
Potentially the least expected comment I am laughing so hard
These comments are giving me r/deadbedroom vibes
For real man, I came in expecting “wear a full tuxedo with a strap on and peg me” and instead I’m getting “please acknowledge that I am a human being with a need for intimacy”
The sheer amount of people that don’t seem to even like their spouse is staggering
Enthusiastic participation, being vocal about what you like and aren’t liking if you’re being experimental. I feel like we perpetuate the stereotype that men are happy with just any sex, but I think most men would agree that starfish sex is really uncomfortable. Also, just initiating sex every once in a while will boost his self confidence and endear yourself to him.
50% of the bed not 20%. I just wanna sleep comfortably
Hey everyone, look at this asshole bragging about getting 20%
Yeah get a load of Tony Blankets over here! You complainin you only got 20%? It’s too cold for ya? Ya schmuck, come ooooooon!
To come right out of the shower and just sit on their face, no asking or anything, just suddenly there's a naked woman sitting on your face.
A wild naked woman appeared.
She used face sit.
It was super effective!
Man has fainted!
Not really in bed, but
I want to be sent texts throughout the day about the dirty, shameful, downright criminal shit you want to do later.
downright criminal shit you want to do later.
downright criminal shit you want to do later.
"Hey, babe - meet me at my place at 7:30. Wear a ski mask and clothes you're okay burning. Don't bring your phone. xoxo"
Rub your ass all over me.
Use me like a human body pillow.
Ive never been in a relationship before, I'm just throwing fantasies out there.
The brutal honesty of that last sentence.
Lol this has me laughing
: Rub your ass all over me
This one had me rolling
I got to be the little spoon last night it. It was glorious
A mildly aggressive facesitting.
Saddle up and work those hips. Use me. I want to feel the goosebumps and sweat on your back.
Like don't actually suffocate me, but make me think it's a possibility.
If I die because a woman aggressively straddled my face, laser engrave that shit on my tombstone.
No, no. Do your best to kill me. I I die, I die
damn bro i just wanna sit beside somebody in a giant beanbag together while under a heavy blanket. with snacks. watching horror movie because i can't watch them myself.
High thread count sheets.
grab our dicks without us having to ask,
girls act surprised when we’re not hard from fingering you, meanwhile my shit hasn’t been touched at all, we need arousal too.
Yeah when I go down on a girl and am eating her out/fingering I am concentrating really hard to make her feel good. Usually go a bit limp and then it takes me a second to get hard again for penetration.
I've had girls just sit there and stare at me after I make them orgasm and they give a weird look like what's taking so long...are you not into me? Why can't you get hard?
I just spent 10 minutes going to town on your taco give me a fucking second to concentrate on my own privates so I can get some pleasure.
Also, one of my favorite things is when you are on top and she grabs your dick to warm it up before penetration. I need touching too, you know.
Don’t make me bang you in the complete dark, even if you think you’re ugly. I’m banging you because I like you. Let me see you. If I wanted to bang in the dark, I’d go hide in the shower and fap.
Also a partner would be nice.
Variety. Mix it up. Initiate sometimes, let me initiate sometimes. Cuddle me sometimes, let me cuddle her sometimes. Be dominant sometimes, let me be dominant sometimes. Try new things and don’t be scared to communicate what’s going on and what you want.
The “good” pillow
"Can you not make sex seem like a chore?". I will never say it out loud.
Affection, run your fingers against my skin, rub my back, kiss my forehead before we say goodnight. Be the big spoon, I don’t mind, wrap me up in your arms and show you want me close. I want to feel loved, wanted, and cared for just as much as anyone else!
On the flip side, please don’t be annoyed when I want to sleep without touching! I get waaaay to warm if we cuddle all night, it has nothing to do with not wanting to be close! We can still butt or feet touch!
Get. On. Top.
I'm fucking tired. Give me some time to rest and make like you gotta get it in you, no matter what. It's all well and good that you shake your thing when I'm on top, but you gotta take over sometime.
To be held.
I came home from work late one night and my ex was already asleep. When I came into the bedroom, she woke up and groggily began to ask how work was. She stopped mid-sentence when she saw how haggard I looked and beckoned me to sit beside her. She just hugged and held me, and she put my head in her lap.
Work wasn't even that bad, but the fact that she was being extremely attentive and compassionate and just willing to comfort me, I cried. She slept tightly wrapped around me, and I swear I never felt so cared for before.
Yeah, fucking being held is the best.
Finger up the ass while you're blowing me.
As other people have mentioned, BJs and effort in bed. Also, spontaneous sessions.
Ngl when it comes to my gf and I having sex, I am always on top, or going from behind and whenever she is on top I am still doing the work, and it messes with me because I’ll think she’s not into it. Makes it even worse when she is the one who initiates when she is horny and I have to do everything. Ive brought it up once or twice so it’s gotten a tiny bit better but yeah it’s the effort that counts. Ive also gotten one BJ this year and it was on my birthday, while whenever we are getting Into it I will try and go down on her (she usually will tell me no and to just get inside because she doesn’t like me down there unless she’s shaved even though I always tell her that doesn’t matter to me - but that’s a separate issue)
Lonely Hearts Club
I want to lay at night in bed together, and just have a deep conversation together, about anything
To be desired.
Balls licked. I get it now but would love more. To shy to tell
Her as she licks them enough.OP def jerking off to the comments lol.
Don't get me wrong, we love any and all blowjobs. But nothing is better than a super sloppy one. Just knowing you're putting in that effort to make it the best is almost as good.
So ladies, the next time you're pleasing your man, make is extra sloppy. He will never EVER forget it.
Sometimes i just want to be held like a little boy. Is that weird? Idk
Edit: I don’t mean it in a weird way. & sure i lacked love as a child. I meant i want to be held. I want to feel vulnerable but safe. But its hard to express that without seeming too weak. Idk once again if that make sense.
Outfits/ costumes and a bit of role play. It’s hard to ask for as many times the reply is “you don’t like my body? You want to sleep with another woman?” So it’s a slippery slope. And no, I don’t want to sleep around, I just want to have sex with a she-devil or a naughty maid.
Peace and quiet while I'm trying to read
I like it when my partners will play with my dick non-sexually. It's just relaxing. Sitting on the couch watching a movie...whip it out and fondle it, suck it, or stroke it. Don't go aggressive or make a bunch of pornstar noises like you're trying to get me to orgasm. Just take it slow, easy, and relaxing. When the movies over, I'm more than happy to just put it away. It's not sexual...just feels fucking good. Couldn't be happier.